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Graduation BBQ

We invited the kids from Maggie and Burke’s class (and their families) over for a Graduation BBQ today.

Mike went all out: burgers, dogs, kielbasa, pork chops, green beans, and potatoes. We also had stuffed shells with meatballs and a pasta salad.

Cupcakes, Oreo brownies, and this wonderful chocolate bark (that I’m so getting the recipe for!) were available for dessert.

The kids had a blast playing in the kiddie pool (that I broke and partially patched right before everyone got here!), running through the sprinkler, splashing in the water table, swinging, playing in the sandbox, and climbing on the playhouse. In general, being kids 🙂

I lost count, but I think there were 14 or 15 kids and 10 or 11 adults.

Together?

Still mulling things over about keeping Burke and Maggie together or separate in Kindergarten next year. (Thanks to everyone who commented!! 🙂 )

There are a few updates. I asked them both what they wanted to do. Maggie’s immediate, no hesitation response was “Separate!” Burke’s was “Together!” then “Separate!” then “Together!” I’m not sure why I’d expect him to know when I don’t have a clue 😉

I asked their preschool teacher what she thought. Her immediate response was “Oh, Kindergarten is tough! You want them together. Plus, that’s better for your sanity.”

Whoo boy.

I chatted with Mrs. Teacher for a while about it and told her all of my conflicting thoughts…and ended up conflicting her as well LOL! She actually told me that the kids are getting more independent … and not eating lunch together as I had thought. And that they almost always do their own thing … unless Burke gets up in Maggie’s face to bug her a bit. (No wonder Maggie wants separate 😛 )

I also had the thought that maybe Burke wouldn’t be so up in Maggie and Logan’s faces if he had his OWN time for a while. That may be wishful thinking since he seems to really enjoy wrestling with them…especially when they don’t want to. (ya, I have my happy hat on about THAT one…we’re working on it.)

Separate?

Ah, the age-old school-aged question that faces every twin mom. Do I separate my kids in Kindergarten or keep them together? I’ve been back and forth so many times, I’ve lost count. And I have good arguments for both sides. (I have selfish ones as well 😉 )

I was talking with the principal and vice principal of their new school today…asking what they “normally” do with twins. Their initial response was to separate them – not knowing that they’re boy/girl twins…but that didn’t seem to matter. I’m supposed to send a note into school with what we want, so I figured I’d try to work through it here. 🙂

I think if they were both boys or both girls, I’d be inclined to say “Separate!” with no hesitation. (I think.) However, I don’t see that they’ll be compared as much or be in quite the same competition since they’re one of each. (I could be totally wrong about that though.) Plus, I’ve already seen in preschool that they have their own go-to friends, so I don’t have to worry about that. However, I’ve also seen that they most often sit together at lunch and at snack…I don’t know if they’d have that chance if they were in separate classes (something to ask, I guess).

My “selfish” reasons for keeping them together: One teacher to deal with instead of two (because you know I’ll be in there asking questions 😉 ). One homework assignment or project to deal with instead of two (although, this could be a flip argument – more on that later). I can ask Maggie about Burke’s day and Burke about Maggie’s day (even if that’s not entirely fair…). When their birthday comes around, if they ask for a big party, it’s ONE class to invite and not two (or even one party and not two).

Non-selfish reasons: It’s a new school and together might make that transition easier (except, if they weren’t twins, they wouldn’t have that crutch…). They might LIKE to be in the same class (perhaps I should ask them).

Reasons for separating them: They wouldn’t ever be compared and that competition thing wouldn’t be there (although what usually ends up happening is Burke competes and Maggie has no idea he’s doing so…). They’d have separate assignments and projects so there’d be no copying and I’d be able to tell where each has their own strengths and weaknesses (I already have a pretty good idea of those, but I know things change).

Comments? Suggestions? Ideas?

Bored?

Even though I’ve written about Maggie’s speech stuff before, I’m going to write out a little history. She had gone through Early Intervention for speech through age 3 and then was tested at the public school to see if she qualified for services. At that point, the testing showed that she had some sounds she wasn’t supposed to yet, so that “kicked her out” … even though she didn’t quite have all the sounds she was supposed to yet. (Burke qualified at that point and went for an hour a week until this past November when he was deemed “normal” Woot!)

Fast forward to the second year of preschool and figuring out that no one outside of Maggie’s immediate family could really understand her. Hell, there were definite times when I had absolutely no idea of what she was saying. Luckily (depending on how you look at it), Logan had qualified for Early Intervention speech services and the same Ms. Speech came to see him as Burke and Maggie had (she saw his name and claims to have beaten off a few other therapists to work with our family again LOL!). While Ms. Speech was working with Logan, she picked up on some of Maggie’s difficulties and offered her services through a private practice. Maggie has now been seeing Ms. Speech (again) for about 6 months.

WHAT an improvement! I cannot get over how much of a difference Ms. Speech has made. I’m sure that it helps that Maggie loves meeting with her and is a (mostly) willing student. They both work really hard when they’re together. At this point, there’s not much that Ms. Speech needs to work on with Maggie pronunciation-wise. The problem now lies in how Maggie is processing and expressing things. Ms. Speech has started giving Maggie tests to figure out where the break-down is and has even gone to Maggie’s school a few times to observe her in that setting.

The first time Ms. Speech observed Maggie at school, she was playing Bingo with a bunch of boys at her table. All of the boys were paying rapt attention to what the next color and shape were going to be, while Maggie was not watching and was playing with the Bingo chips…adding more and more to her pile. Ms. Speech would have sworn Maggie wasn’t paying any attention…except that she won 3 times. At this same visit, Maggie was asked a question by the teacher and gave a seemingly TOTALLY random answer…except that Ms. Speech had observed Maggie and the other girls chatting about what Maggie’s answer had been about (the teacher wasn’t aware of that conversation). The answer still made no sense what-so-ever, but it wasn’t completely out of nowhere as the teacher had thought.

At the first testing session, Maggie was sitting on my lap while Ms. Speech was asking the questions. I’d pretty much give up on Maggie even responding to the question, but Ms. Speech would wait 10 more seconds or so…and Maggie would answer. And answer correctly as well! I was blown away…I totally need to just wait a bit longer for her to reason things out in her head.

The second time Ms. Speech observed Maggie at school, she was supposed to draw 7 things. Any 7 things. Maggie decided to draw herself, and Ms. Speech…and got so involved with that, she forgot what she was actually supposed to be doing. Apparently, the other kids were drawing 7 circles or something else fast and then going on about their day, but Maggie was taking her time…and spacing out. Ms. Speech mentioned that once she’s able to read, stuff like that won’t be as noticeable, because the instructions for what she’s supposed to be doing will most likely be at the top of the paper; she can just read it again. That same day, Maggie was having difficulties writing her name (the full Marjorie). Not with the letters, but with just taking f.o.r.e.v.e.r. to do it. Granted, it’s a long name, but I’m not sure what to do about that…

At the second testing session, Ms. Speech was testing comprehensive language. The way the test works is that there are 4 pictures on the page and Maggie is asked a question along the lines of “Show me the dog” …so she has to point at the right picture or say the corresponding number. Maggie being Maggie, she’d sing “It’s Step number twoooooo” (not sure where “step number” came from, but apparently that didn’t matter too much.) You keep going with the test until there are 8 missed in a section. It starts at the age 2 level and just keeps going. Maggie finally missed 8 in the 14 – 16 year old section. what? Ya. Ms. Speech figures once she scores the test, it’ll show she has an understanding at about the 11 year old level (she was getting about 5 wrong in the sections between 11 and 14). What? She’s only *5*!! Ms. Speech asked “Show me terrified” and Maggie pointed to the right picture immediately. I was like, “Maggie, do you know what terrified means?” She looked at me like, “duh mom, everyone knows that” and said, “Scared.” Crazy.

The next test will be the expressive language one … which is where we think she’s actually getting tripped up. The poor kid is such a people pleaser; I’m afraid that she’s terrified of giving the wrong answer. And Ms. Speech (and her boss) want me to make an appointment with the Mass General Hospital speech department. Just to do some more testing and see if there’s a trace of ADD or something else going on.

And Ms. Speech is going to start reading chapter books and cook with Maggie. (Apparently, following recipes is supposed to be REALLY good in these types of learning situations.)

We’ll obviously do whatever we can to help Maggie out, but I’m beginning to think that perhaps she’s just bored in school…

Helicopter?

Do helicopter parents even know that they hover? I mean…what if *I’M* a helicopter mom? It’s not like my kids’ teachers would tell me…right?

I drop my kids off and pick them up from school. (There is no bus option at this age.) The school does offer a drive-up drop-off option where the teachers will come get your kids out of the car (and at pick-up they’ll bring your kids out to your car), but I prefer to take them in myself. I feel much more connected and like I actually know their teachers (and they know me – which I also think is important). There’s not a lot of individualized communication at this school – no parent/teacher conferences or anything like that. So…I go in, help the kids get settled, chat with a teacher or two – if they’re not too frazzled – and then go. When I go back in to pick the kids up, I sometimes get a quick update. For example, on Tuesday, Maggie didn’t want her picture taken with “Rudolph” at the Holiday party that day … which put her in a funk for the rest of the day. I’m not sure I would have known about that if I hadn’t gone in.

Next year, Burke and Maggie head to Kindergarten where they’ll have the option to take the bus. But I really don’t want them to do that (and luckily, Mike agrees). I think part of it stems from my own hatred of the bus when I was little – well…the 1/4 mile hike to get to the bus stop anyway. That and the fact that my Dad (and then my step-mother) drove us to school. I’m sure that part of it may be that I’m a complete control freak. Part of it is that in MA, there’s a law that kids have to be in booster seats until they’re 8 … are there boosters in buses??

The thing is, I know that I want my kids to have minds of their own (mostly 😉 ) and be able to fight for their own grades and stuff when they get older. (There’s no way I’m going in to argue over grades for one of my kids!) And I want them to be able to make their own decisions – which includes making their own mistakes. I don’t want to “smooth out and mow down all obstacles” for them.

But I don’t want to not be there for them either.

I’m sure there’s a happy medium. I just hope I find it.

First Day of School!

Today is Burke and Marjorie’s first day back at preschool.

I really thought we were in trouble when Burke woke up saying he didn’t feel well.

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Then Marjorie came into the room with her backpack and lunch box.

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So he was all better and we scrambled to get him dressed and ready on time.

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Since we were in a hurry, this is the best picture I got with both of them together.

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Once at school, Marjorie went straight for the play kitchen.

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And Burke went for the easel.

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I think he’ll be just fine.

VBS

Burke and Maggie are attending Vacation Bible School this week. It’s a community-wide event, so lots of different churches attend.

…which means that I keep running into people from our old church. I’m having a hard time with this because I REALLY liked the people from our former church. It was the minister we had a problem with…we just never really let people know why we left. And now that they see me trucking the kids to VBS, they pretty much KNOW we’ve left them for another church, but they don’t know why.

The really nice thing is that the ‘Tweens we knew at the church have come running up to give Burke and Maggie big hugs…and they even chat with me a bit. It’s the adults who are giving me the stink eye – or avoiding any eye contact at all. *sigh* I suppose I could march up to them and say “Hey!! How are you? I miss seeing you…”  But I’m such a chicken 😛

Anyway … the kids are loving it so far. At least…if I can get them to let go of me. Maggie has NO problem. Runs right in and faces the world with open arms. Burke, not so much. Day 1 was a drop-off in a smaller room and there were lily pads for him to sit on, so that was cool – mommy could take off no problem. This morning they were all meeting in the BIG room … lots of noisy kids. Burke did NOT want mommy to go. Luckily, his group leader had stickers, so she distracted him while I slipped out.

On my way out, I bumped into one of the said ‘Tweens from above. I mentioned to her that Burke was having a hard time (while trying to glance in the room undetected by him). She said she’d go hang out with him for a bit. Awesome. 🙂

Wonder if her mom would have a problem if I asked her to babysit for us…

Friday’s Foto Finish Fiesta: Pre-K Graduation

Candid Carrie sponsors this one – head over to her blog and find LOTS of links for bloggers who’ve joined in! (You can join in too!)

Burke and Maggie “graduated” from preschool yesterday!

Waiting to March into the Room

Waiting to March into the Room

All Lined Up

All Lined Up

Pledging the Flag

Pledging the Flag

(See the video in yesterday’s post for all of the songs in between.)

Receiving Her Diploma

Maggie Receiving Her Diploma

Receiving His Diploma

Burke Receiving His Diploma

The Graduate!

The Graduate!

The Graduate!

The Graduate!

Posing with Mrs. Teachers and Logan

Posing with Mrs. Teachers (and Logan)

Maggie wouldn’t look away from the mirror that was on the wall right there…

Thursday Theater: Pre-K Graduation

Goddess hosts Thursday Theater. Wanna join in? Go add your name to the list!

Burke and Maggie graduated today! (Well. Technically, they’re going back to the same school next year…but apparently everyone graduates. 🙂 )

The theme for their ‘show’ was America the Beautiful – it was super cute. (If I do say so myself 😉 )

It’s about 2:40 … 2:55 with the stuff OneTrueMedia puts around it.

Progress Reports

The twins got their very first progress reports from preschool yesterday. I have to say that I’m not that surprised by the results.

Well, let’s preface that with: when I opened them up and saw all “Gs” on Burke’s, my first thought was “uhmm….lower than an F?” heh Apparently G means “Good Progress” while W means “Working on Skill.”

Burke even got a G+ *grin* (Proud mommy here!) But that didn’t surprise me either because it was in the Using Crayons category.

If you missed his coloring in a previous post, here is a sample from December:

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I was also not surprised by 2 of the W’s in Maggie’s. Categories: I communicate in sentences, and I can use language to express my wants and needs. Yep – we knew this. Remember that whole “Does Maggie ever talk?” thing? She’s better, but she still grunts at Mrs. Teachers when she wants things. (She does this to us as well, but we’re doing our best to ignore her until she uses the words we know she has…) The one that surprised me with Maggie was the W in the category I can count Jan (1 – 5) …I’m pretty sure she CAN…but then I figured that this might go hand-in-hand with the OTHER two she’s currently working on … hard to count for Mrs. Teacher when you won’t talk to her 😛

So…all in all, I’m not too worried and I’m not too surprised.

Logan’s progress is good and bad. His breathing is sooooooo much better now. And he’s back to a happy kid. Except that he threw up all over Mike and the car and things yesterday afternoon. Looked better toward the evening, but then was up for about 45 minutes around 1am throwing up in bed. (I had to change the sheets and his outfit twice!) He’s looking better this morning…hope it stays that way.