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Way Back When-esday

Cheryl over at Twinfatuation hosts this one. Go on over to see who else is playing – and join in too!

This was taken on May 21, 2005. Burke and Maggie were just about 4 months old.

Maggie and Burke

Separate?

Ah, the age-old school-aged question that faces every twin mom. Do I separate my kids in Kindergarten or keep them together? I’ve been back and forth so many times, I’ve lost count. And I have good arguments for both sides. (I have selfish ones as well 😉 )

I was talking with the principal and vice principal of their new school today…asking what they “normally” do with twins. Their initial response was to separate them – not knowing that they’re boy/girl twins…but that didn’t seem to matter. I’m supposed to send a note into school with what we want, so I figured I’d try to work through it here. 🙂

I think if they were both boys or both girls, I’d be inclined to say “Separate!” with no hesitation. (I think.) However, I don’t see that they’ll be compared as much or be in quite the same competition since they’re one of each. (I could be totally wrong about that though.) Plus, I’ve already seen in preschool that they have their own go-to friends, so I don’t have to worry about that. However, I’ve also seen that they most often sit together at lunch and at snack…I don’t know if they’d have that chance if they were in separate classes (something to ask, I guess).

My “selfish” reasons for keeping them together: One teacher to deal with instead of two (because you know I’ll be in there asking questions 😉 ). One homework assignment or project to deal with instead of two (although, this could be a flip argument – more on that later). I can ask Maggie about Burke’s day and Burke about Maggie’s day (even if that’s not entirely fair…). When their birthday comes around, if they ask for a big party, it’s ONE class to invite and not two (or even one party and not two).

Non-selfish reasons: It’s a new school and together might make that transition easier (except, if they weren’t twins, they wouldn’t have that crutch…). They might LIKE to be in the same class (perhaps I should ask them).

Reasons for separating them: They wouldn’t ever be compared and that competition thing wouldn’t be there (although what usually ends up happening is Burke competes and Maggie has no idea he’s doing so…). They’d have separate assignments and projects so there’d be no copying and I’d be able to tell where each has their own strengths and weaknesses (I already have a pretty good idea of those, but I know things change).

Comments? Suggestions? Ideas?

Bored?

Even though I’ve written about Maggie’s speech stuff before, I’m going to write out a little history. She had gone through Early Intervention for speech through age 3 and then was tested at the public school to see if she qualified for services. At that point, the testing showed that she had some sounds she wasn’t supposed to yet, so that “kicked her out” … even though she didn’t quite have all the sounds she was supposed to yet. (Burke qualified at that point and went for an hour a week until this past November when he was deemed “normal” Woot!)

Fast forward to the second year of preschool and figuring out that no one outside of Maggie’s immediate family could really understand her. Hell, there were definite times when I had absolutely no idea of what she was saying. Luckily (depending on how you look at it), Logan had qualified for Early Intervention speech services and the same Ms. Speech came to see him as Burke and Maggie had (she saw his name and claims to have beaten off a few other therapists to work with our family again LOL!). While Ms. Speech was working with Logan, she picked up on some of Maggie’s difficulties and offered her services through a private practice. Maggie has now been seeing Ms. Speech (again) for about 6 months.

WHAT an improvement! I cannot get over how much of a difference Ms. Speech has made. I’m sure that it helps that Maggie loves meeting with her and is a (mostly) willing student. They both work really hard when they’re together. At this point, there’s not much that Ms. Speech needs to work on with Maggie pronunciation-wise. The problem now lies in how Maggie is processing and expressing things. Ms. Speech has started giving Maggie tests to figure out where the break-down is and has even gone to Maggie’s school a few times to observe her in that setting.

The first time Ms. Speech observed Maggie at school, she was playing Bingo with a bunch of boys at her table. All of the boys were paying rapt attention to what the next color and shape were going to be, while Maggie was not watching and was playing with the Bingo chips…adding more and more to her pile. Ms. Speech would have sworn Maggie wasn’t paying any attention…except that she won 3 times. At this same visit, Maggie was asked a question by the teacher and gave a seemingly TOTALLY random answer…except that Ms. Speech had observed Maggie and the other girls chatting about what Maggie’s answer had been about (the teacher wasn’t aware of that conversation). The answer still made no sense what-so-ever, but it wasn’t completely out of nowhere as the teacher had thought.

At the first testing session, Maggie was sitting on my lap while Ms. Speech was asking the questions. I’d pretty much give up on Maggie even responding to the question, but Ms. Speech would wait 10 more seconds or so…and Maggie would answer. And answer correctly as well! I was blown away…I totally need to just wait a bit longer for her to reason things out in her head.

The second time Ms. Speech observed Maggie at school, she was supposed to draw 7 things. Any 7 things. Maggie decided to draw herself, and Ms. Speech…and got so involved with that, she forgot what she was actually supposed to be doing. Apparently, the other kids were drawing 7 circles or something else fast and then going on about their day, but Maggie was taking her time…and spacing out. Ms. Speech mentioned that once she’s able to read, stuff like that won’t be as noticeable, because the instructions for what she’s supposed to be doing will most likely be at the top of the paper; she can just read it again. That same day, Maggie was having difficulties writing her name (the full Marjorie). Not with the letters, but with just taking f.o.r.e.v.e.r. to do it. Granted, it’s a long name, but I’m not sure what to do about that…

At the second testing session, Ms. Speech was testing comprehensive language. The way the test works is that there are 4 pictures on the page and Maggie is asked a question along the lines of “Show me the dog” …so she has to point at the right picture or say the corresponding number. Maggie being Maggie, she’d sing “It’s Step number twoooooo” (not sure where “step number” came from, but apparently that didn’t matter too much.) You keep going with the test until there are 8 missed in a section. It starts at the age 2 level and just keeps going. Maggie finally missed 8 in the 14 – 16 year old section. what? Ya. Ms. Speech figures once she scores the test, it’ll show she has an understanding at about the 11 year old level (she was getting about 5 wrong in the sections between 11 and 14). What? She’s only *5*!! Ms. Speech asked “Show me terrified” and Maggie pointed to the right picture immediately. I was like, “Maggie, do you know what terrified means?” She looked at me like, “duh mom, everyone knows that” and said, “Scared.” Crazy.

The next test will be the expressive language one … which is where we think she’s actually getting tripped up. The poor kid is such a people pleaser; I’m afraid that she’s terrified of giving the wrong answer. And Ms. Speech (and her boss) want me to make an appointment with the Mass General Hospital speech department. Just to do some more testing and see if there’s a trace of ADD or something else going on.

And Ms. Speech is going to start reading chapter books and cook with Maggie. (Apparently, following recipes is supposed to be REALLY good in these types of learning situations.)

We’ll obviously do whatever we can to help Maggie out, but I’m beginning to think that perhaps she’s just bored in school…

Baby Picture Sundays

This week’s theme is Have Your Cake and Wear it Too…my “twist” on this is mud pies…er…cake! 🙂

Debi hosts the Baby Picture Sundays. Hop on over there to see who’s playing, and join in too!

Makes Me Smile: Shared Stickers

The other day, Burke held onto a sticker that he desperately wanted to give to me for about an hour. (I was upstairs working at the time.) When I came down, I was treated to a sticker of Flo from Cars.

I later went upstairs to take a shower, but didn’t want to lose my special present…so I stuck it to the little glass shelf above the sink.

Fast forward a few hours. I hear Burke upstairs working really hard at something. I call up to him a few times to come back downstairs and get “just a minute!”…he finally comes back down with a HUGE grin on his face.

I smile every time I go into the bathroom 🙂

Friday’s Fotos: Baseball and Playgrounds

I posted a picture of it last week, but I finally got my act together and uploaded a video of Logan “playing” baseball.

(17 seconds)

I also posted a picture of Burke at the playground, when he was really excited to show me his new trick.

(15 seconds)

Burke Style

Remember Maggie’s Style? And the start of Burke’s Style? The rest of Burke’s Cars accouterments (finally) came in the other day and I had a chance to put it all up!

Cars!

Burke was speechless when he first saw it. (Of course, it could have been that he just wanted to get back to playing with his Gameboy 😛 )

(26 seconds)

We all went back downstairs and Burke stayed up to admire it for a good 10 minutes. It was too cute. 🙂

Way Back When-esday

Cheryl over at Twinfatuation hosts this one. Go on over to see who else is playing – and join in too!

These pictures were taken on April 8, 2006.

The kids worked together to figure out how to get around the gates we had put up…shortly after these pictures were taken, Mike used string and eyelets to secure the gate to the walls 🙂

The Great Escape

The Great Escape

The Great Escape

Saturday Snapshot: Dipping Eggs

Aunt Meghan made egg-shaped Rice Krispies treats…and let the kids dip them in chocolate and then sprinkles. YUM!

Cheryl over at Twinfatuation hosts this one. Go over and have a look at what others are doing on this absolutely gorgeous Saturday.

Friday’s Fotos: All Dressed Up

The kids received a package from Granny Frani this week. Burke couldn’t wait to wear his new clothes! (Thank you Granny Frani!!)

Burke

All of the girls at Maggie’s dance class received their costumes for the big recital (that’s in June!). You should have seen the extra bounces in all of their steps that day! LOL

Maggie

(Now, to keep her out of it until the recital!)