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And We’re Off…

Hey – that would work for school and Veteran’s day as the kids are off today…but alas, I was talking about the nanny search.

I’ve reached out (so far) to 4 people who look good on paper. I know I’ll be sending a few more inquiries out tonight after the kids go to bed as well. I really hate this process. It’s almost more nerve-racking than dating! I suppose mostly because it’s not just my life I’m messing with…it’s my kids’ lives. You send an email to someone who looks good and hope and pray that they’ll email you back. And then if THAT goes well, you ask them to meet in person and see if THAT goes well. See the parallels here?! (It’s a good thing I met Mike online – and it worked – or this would be even more awful LOL!)

I keep thinking that perhaps I should go through some agency somewhere…but I just can’t justify spending the money on that. I have in my head that the agency would do exactly what I’m doing. . . look through profiles online and then do some background research on people I like. And I suppose having someone do that for me would give me a lot of time back…but this is one of those things where I don’t know who I’ll like – or not like – until I see it.

So…wish me luck and keep your fingers crossed that a.) I’ll find a good one, and b.) it’ll be my LAST nanny!

And So It Goes…

I learned today that our beloved Nanny Jessica will be moving in 2 months. To say that I’m bummed is an understatement. And the kids are at an age where I think this will be a pretty big impact for them as well.

I’m incredibly happy for Nanny Jessica, as this move means great things for her – and I’m a firm believer in doing things that are right for you; but obviously…this sucks!!

And it has to make one wonder…Nanny Jessica is our 9th nanny. Yes, you read that right. NINE. I’m here and I know exactly why each nanny has left us (or been fired…), and it still makes me pause and wonder… are my kids THAT bad? And then…I know that they aren’t. I mean, they are definitely kids, but they’re good kids. So…does that mean that Mike and I are terrible employers? I don’t think so…I mean, I think I’m incredibly flexible (it helps that my job is flexible with me so I can be flexible with my nanny). And I know I’m grumpy in the morning, but after the coffee kicks in, I’d like to think that I’m relatively pleasant. And I try to not butt in and let the nanny be in charge when she’s here…

So … I guess that just means we’re left with lousy luck.

Keep your fingers crossed for us that we’ll find a wonderful replacement!

The Search is Over!

…no, I’m not going to break out into a Survivor song … and no, she wasn’t with me all along … but…


She doesn’t start until the 20th, so Mike and I will have some creative work schedules for the next two weeks…but there is an end in sight!

WOO HOO!!! 🙂

Well Crap.

It’s official. Brenda isn’t returning to us. 😦 I’m so sad!! I’m not sure what to tell the kids…I’m sure that we’ll figure something out when the time comes, but blah.

Anyone know of someone available to be a nanny for 3 busy-but-wonderful kids? 🙂

I’m Trying to Not Freak Out

Right. Yesterday marked the last day my nanny was with us … possibly forever. We knew she’d be leaving us over the holidays – that’s to be expected. But about a month ago she told us that she had some business to take care of back home, and she’s not sure if she’ll be allowed to come back. ACK!

I’ve been in denial…From everything she tells me, it seems to me that there’s no reason she shouldn’t be able to come back – but what do I know of such things? And I know that she really wants to come back, but really wanting to and being allowed to are two entirely different things.

Have I mentioned the denial?

We’ll find out on Saturday if she’s coming back. Please keep your fingers crossed for us! We love Brenda – she’s like a part of the family, and we’ll all be heartbroken if she can’t come back to us.

It’s Not as Froufie as It Sounds

If you’ve been reading my blog for any amount of time at all now, you’ve seen me mention my nanny. Every time I say that, I feel like I should be looking down my nose, clenching my teeth (Thurston Howell the Third style) and pronouncing it “mmnahnny.” Nothing could be further from the truth. (Thank goodness!)

Since I work full-time (which wasn’t an option…both sanity-wise and budget-wise), we needed to think about daycare when my maternity leave ended with the twins. I went back and forth about whether I wanted to send them somewhere or if I should hire someone to come in. My main factors were: money, trustworthiness, and ease of getting/picking up the kids. Another factor was that I’m able to work from home 2 days a week, and I wanted to be able to see the kids on those days – but knew I wouldn’t get any work done without help.

I was scared to death about leaving them with someone who was all alone with them all day. There wouldn’t be any accountability, and they were only 4 months old at that point – so they wouldn’t be able to speak for themselves. On the other hand, the cost of sending *2* kids to daycare nearly floored me. Sure, there were a few places that offered 10% off a sibling. But 10% off extremely expensive is STILL extremely expensive. As froufie as it sounds, the nanny was actually the best option for us. It was less expensive, the kids would be home on the days I worked from home, and I wouldn’t have to worry about having them completely dressed and fed in addition to ME dressed and fed by the time I needed to be out the door.

We have actually been through quite a few nannies by now. I fired our first one for randomly not showing up and giving me lamo excuses. (I was soooo lucky that work is so flexible with me, otherwise I probably would have been fired at that time as well!) We hired two highly recommeded high school seniors for the summer while we looked for a new nanny…and found a *gem* – she was awesome. Unfortunately, after some time went by, the commute was killing her, so she needed to leave us. But she found 2 other people (friends of hers) for us to interview. She even trained her replacement by overlapping a weeks worth of time – splitting the pay! The replacement was with us for a while, but ended up having to go to school full-time, so she knew of a friend looking for work. The friend was great, but knew it was temporary because we were moving. She stayed with us – even through the move – until yet another friend started working for us. This is Brenda. Brenda started with us about 2 weeks before Logan was born. (Ya, that wasn’t stressful at all! LOL)

Brenda is like family. She truly loves all 3 kids and even calls sometimes when she gets home to see how they’re doing if they’ve been sick during the day. She’ll bring them presents or treats – just because. (She brought cookies today – and even I got one! LOL) She keeps the kids in line, so they don’t walk all over her, but she also has a lot of fun with them. I hear *lots* of laughing when I’m upstairs working. Sure, I hear crying and screeching sometimes (usually Burke…never Brenda 😉 ) It takes *everything* in me not to rush downstairs at these points to see what’s going on – but that would undermine Brenda and I’m not going to do that. She’ll fill me in later, or call me if she needs me (which is usually never). And if I’m downstairs and one of the kids asks for something to eat, or to watch TV, or to go outside, my answer is always “Ask Brenda – Brenda’s in charge right now.” because only she knows how much they’ve already had to eat (and how good it was for them), or how much TV they’ve already had, or if she feels like going outside. I know that she appreciates this – she’s told me as much – and I think it helps the kids to know that I’m not going to give in to something they want if/when Brenda’s already said no.

Do I sometimes wish that the kids had gone to daycare? Every once in a great while I wonder if they were stimulated enough at home…but because they had each other, the socialization was pretty much built in. And all of our nannies spoke Spanish with them, so there was that (which I think is AWESOME. Maggie can speak in sentences with Brenda right now. And all 3 kids totally understand everything Brenda says to them in Spanish.) And now that the twins are in preschool, I don’t worry about that part.

We did the right thing. 🙂