The Zimmer Zoo

There have been a few things going on around me that have made me stop and really think about marriage.

Let’s get one thing straight. I have a *KICK ASS* marriage. I just hope I don’t take it for granted – ever.

I do worry that we’ll get complacent…and the worry extends to “we’re together because it’s what we know and we just haven’t thought about anything else…” But I can honestly say that even though there’s routine in my marriage (get up, get the kids up, get everyone ready, work, dinner for the kids, TV time for the kids, bed for the kids, dinner for the adults, TV time, bed. Repeat.), it’s not boring or dull. I think that’s because Mike makes me laugh. And I think it’s because even doing the boring and dull things – when done together – makes them less boring (Costco runs come to mind).

One of the things I’ve been thinking about is how people get married. Mike and I got married in a church (read all about it), and our minister had us take a compatibility test to see if we needed counseling before tying the knot. Turns out the test pretty much declared we should already be married – but that’s not where I’m going with this. My wonder is, what about all of those people who didn’t take these test before getting married? Or what if they take the test and it says, “DON’T DO IT!!!” ?? Do people ignore the ‘warnings’ … or do they go on with major counseling? And what happens to these couples?

Seven years ago this month, I was ‘ordained’ JP for a day so I could marry two of my friends. I was flabbergasted that they asked, and honored to do it. However, the couple I married is no longer a couple. Now, I don’t blame myself for this at all…but I do have to wonder if they had used someone other than me, would they have been given that compatibility test? And what would it have said? *I* had thought they were a good match. And perhaps they were – at the time. I’m definitely happy that they realized it wasn’t working and did something about it. But it still makes me wonder.

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