I’ve been asking myself a lot lately if kids can BE spoiled without ACTING spoiled.
I’m pretty sure our kids are spoiled. Do they get everything they ask for? No. But they’re definitely not really wanting for anything. And if they ask for little things that I can accommodate, like chocolate milk, I’m a big push-over and will more than likely get some for them. (Just did that yesterday, in fact.)
Burke and Maggie were also the first grandkids on my side…so that might tell you something about the number of toys we have in our house. Oh, and just as we were ready to get rid of a whole bunch of toys, Logan came along…so we pretty much have every single toy they’ve all ever gotten spread out in our living room. (I really need to do something about that!!)
BUT…my kids are GOOD kids. Do they act like 5-year-olds and a 2-year-old? Absolutely. But we take them out for dinner and actually have a pleasant time. They can sit through a church service and not make a scene (Burke actually sits through the entire service every week – he doesn’t like Sunday School at the moment).Β Their teachers have all commented on how good they are and how much they enjoy having them in their class – out of the blue, even! They say “please” (sometimes without prompting, even π ) and “Thank you” and they’re learning more about how to be polite kids every day. (We’re currently working on the no-interrupting-when-I’m-talking-with-another-grown-up thing.)
…So, I guess the answer to my question is “yes, kids CAN be spoiled without acting spoiled.” You just have to beat ’em down when they start π
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I think my husband is a good example of spoiled but doesn’t act it. It does come out in weird ways – mostly “value” issues. I am very puritanical in my values and he thinks if I want it and I can have it (afford it, etc.) then I should get it. Raising three kids together will be interesting… π
LOL. Made me giggle at the very end.
Sounds like you have wonderful kiddies, which can only happen if they have wonderful parents π
Well done mama!
Great thoughts. I always wonder why please is so much more difficult than Thank You/.